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Speak for Yourself, George

And, by the way, thanks for giving me a reason to agree wit Gay Patriot on something. I don’t honestly care what you were doing in the bushes with that guy or how you get your rocks off. But do me a favor, please, and in the future leave the rest of us, and gay culture out of it.

In a sweat, the ashen-faced singer declared: “Are you gay? No? Then f*** off! This is my culture!”

Then he claimed: “I’m not doing anything illegal. The police don’t even come up here any more.

“I’m a free man, I can do whatever I want. I’m not harming anyone.”

And according to Queerty, you’ve made similar claims.

George Michael has been quoted as saying in the past that he and Kenny have an open relationship, explaining it this way, “Gay relationships are a bit different. I’m sure we’ll be allowed to roam if we want to. But we love each other dearly.”

News to me, and apparently to your partner since he’s called off the wedding.

As with other high profile gay couples, people tend to either look at them as examples of what same sex relationships are like, or they project their preformed opinions on those couples. But famous gay couples aren’t any more an example of all gay couples than, say, Brittney Spear’s marriage(s) are examples of all heterosexual couples.

I’m gonna try real hard not to be judgmental here, so as not to get into a whole other debate. Like I said, if that’s what works for you and your partner, and (like you said) you aren’t hurting anyone, then do as you please. But, remarks like yours do hurt other people, George, because they only reinforce prejudices and assumptions we’re constantly fighting already

Besides, there are a lot of us you don’t speak for, including myself and my husband. So next time you emerge from an al fresco frolic, just own up to the fact that you were doing what you wanted to do. Period. And leave the rest of us out of it.


  1. I’m pretty disappointed in George’s statement.

    When his album Listen Without Prejudice Vol. 2 came out, it was raw and powerful and helped me to come to terms with myself. There is some powerful emotion and pain in that album, it struck a chord with me, and for that I will always appreciate him and his music.

    He misspoke, but perhaps it was because he was stressed at the time. Frolicking in the bushes with strangers is not gay culture but there is a culture of that, we cannot deny it. It just doesn’t represent an orientation (i.e. the gay community) anymore than swingers represent the straight community.

    I follow along with George’s life, and there have been numerous instances in between his arrest years ago and this episode now. He gets photographed passed out on weed in his car in the park several times, but it doesn’t make near the press coverage, there have been a lot more than the two widely covered incidents.

    Clearly, this man is a sex addict. Look at his behavior, he cannot stop, there is a pattern that goes on for years here. Monogamy isn’t for everybody, and maybe it’s not for him, and that’s okay, but he’s clearly going about it all wrong, endangering himself and his relationship and his career. All for sex. If that isn’t an addict, I don’t know what is.

    I’ll always love him and his music, and I hope he gets the help/peace he needs. I am disappointed in his statement, but I won’t get angry at him. Because of his addiction, I pity him and I do not say that condescendingly but with genuine emotion. I hope the best for him, for the joy and peace he has given me.

  2. Hear, hear! *applauds* I agree with you, Terrance. Frankly, it’s irresponsible of George Michael to make statements like that — it just gives ammunition to bashers.

    I feel sorry for him because he’s clearly been having some problems and doesn’t have his life in order, but he ought to be self-aware enough to realize how high a profile he has, and how statements like this affect others.

  3. It is obvious he is an addict and has a typical male addictive personality. He is rationalizing his indescretions and blaming others for his situation. The problem with his ratioanl is that he is no different then any straight male in his situation. The difference is that if he were straight he would be using prostitutes (i.e. Hugh Grant).

    He appears to have hit bottom in his addiction and like straight men, the appearance of the other person (however revolting) is not part of the experiance.

  4. I think George Michael was speaking for the relationships of his subculture: The Aging Brit Macho Addict Rocker*. that he is gay is incidental to his marital views & his Has Been status.

    *Google: (Big -Haired) 1980s Male Rockers, and see how many have been married how many times (the number of times married will exceed the number of rockers exponentially) – fidelity is not part of their lingua franca.

    I really have no idea why any of them (gay or straight old male rockers) bother getting married in the first place. It must be for the tax benefits (for straights and state tax benefits for Massachusetts aging Rockers) because it’s not for The Defence of Marriage or True Love.

    Louis Black: He is a funny riff on Gay Divorce on the Daily Show.

  5. I’ve never really been convinced that George Michael is Gay. His Advocate interview leads me to believe otherwise. He basically said he’s Gay because he’s in a relationship with a man, although he’d enjoyed being with women as well in the past. Maybe he needs to be with a woman again. He certainly doesn’t seem to be happy in a “Gay marriage.” He obviously doesn’t understand what marriage is. And if having sex in the bushes is his idea of “Gay culture,” he doesn’t understand what being homosexual is, either. Of course, there are more than a few Gay men out there who agree with him that it’s all about having dangerous sex. I thought we’d outgrown that mentality.