Comments on: Missing the Train

By: Chris Clarke

Chris Clarke — Tue, 28 Nov 2006 21:53:00 +0000

Been there, T. Feel your pain. Not much more I can say than that.

By: utica

utica — Sun, 26 Nov 2006 08:54:43 +0000

i think the train analogy might be leading you in the wrong direction. it sounds as if you’re waiting for the right opportunity to come along, and then planning on sitting and watching the scenery until you arrive at Your Destination. i myself am relatively very young and i have already spent a lot of time waiting for trains, but i think i’m starting now to understand that there aren’t any tracks laid and it’s just a long fucking hike. the question turns from: ‘where are you going’, to simply: ‘do you have your boots on’.

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By: Sr. Mary Hasta

Sr. Mary Hasta — Wed, 22 Nov 2006 17:00:11 +0000

I’m sitting in a data entry cubicle at the moment, and my brain won’t shut up about the upcoming holidays, where I get to go home and explain to my extended family members why I’m still not using my graduate degree (OMG brain, shut up!) My life is still in flux from my move in late September, which, of course, threw off ALL my routines (I found myself driving the wrong way home last night). I had a planner, was starting to use it, and I lost it in the move.

I don’t have a doctor’s note with ADD stamped on it in big letters, but I’ve got enough Educational Psychology units to allow me to diagnose myself. It’s getting to the point now, however, where I think I may need to find professional help in coping, ’cause I’m not doing too hot on my own.

Basically, I’m in the same boat you were at about the same time in my life. And I am looking back at my 20s from the tail end going, “What the HELL have I been doing these last seven years?”

It’s not fun.

By: sam

sam — Wed, 22 Nov 2006 02:14:20 +0000

I can empathize. For me, it was undiagnosed clinical depression that wiped out my momentum in my twenties and on into my thirties, and even contributed to a disastrous first marriage. After I was diagnosed and put on anti-depressants, the profound relief from newfound stability competed with deep regret for all the time that had been wasted.

One thing that has helped me is to refuse to dwell on the past. I plan for the future and I pay attention to today. That’s an oversimplification, of course, but I’m trying to summarize something that took me years to learn. Although having a destination in mind is important, what I’m most focused on is the journey itself.

If you want to discuss this in depth with someone who has sort of been there, feel free to email me.