Police in northwest Georgia have rescued a boy from a hot car where his mother’s companion is accused of tying him up.
Ringgold, Georgia, police say a Cracker Barrel restaurant employee called police after seeing Raymond Minchew take the 6-year-old out of the restaurant and return without him — then finished eating his meal. Ringgold is 13 miles southeast of Chattanooga, Tennessee.
Police found the bound boy sitting in the car, crying.
Sgt. John Gass says the child was soaked with sweat and had a rope tied to one of his ankles. Gass says the temperature was in the 80s Saturday in Ringgold.
The 61-year-old Minchew and the boy’s mother — 35-year-old Rachel Gilchrist — were arrested and charged with cruelty to children and concealing a weapon. There was a handgun in the car.
Investigators believe the boy was in the hot car for about a half hour.
Gass says the couple contended the boy had misbehaved, although witnesses at the restaurant disagreed.
The boy has been placed in protective custody.
Does this count as abuse? Sure. But these parents (or parent, since it’s mom and her boyfriend) are presumably heterosexual, so that automatically makes them better candidates for parenthood than the hubby and me, according to Savage and his audience. Our every day parenting is the equivalent of tying a kid up in a hot car.
I ask because I’m at home with Parker today. This morning I took him out for a ride on his bike, and later this afternoon we’ll go for a walk and have lunch at a nearby bagel shop. When we come home I’ll probably read him a couple of the books we checked out from the library, since we have to return them this weekend (and check out more). Later, so can have an hour or so to get some work done, I’ll probably put in one of Parker’s favorite movies. (Though he’ll insist I watch at least part of it with him, and I’ll acquiesce.)
Now, if I were a heterosexual dad doing all of the above, it wouldn’t warrant much notice except maybe for a few comments about how great it is that I’m spending time with my son (something parents are supposed to do anyway). But because I’m a gay dad, and a partnered one at that, my day with Parker — biking, bagels, books and all — is abuse. It’s in the same category as the people above, though we’ve never come anywhere near doing anything like that to our son.
Yes, we’ve eaten out with Parker, and when he was younger if he was making too much of a fuss in the restaurant, we’d leave as a family. Usually one of us would get the kid out of the restaurant and the other would take care of the bill and getting our meal packaged to go if we hadn’t finished. And we’d never leave him in the car alone. I’ve gone out to the car with him sometimes, when he couldn’t behave in, say, the grocery store, and we’d sit with the windows down or with the AC running depending on the weather. Call me crazy. Maybe that’s “abuse” but I call it responsible parenting.
I guess being heterosexual doesn’t automatically make you a good parent, but in Savage’s world being gay automatically makes you a bad — even abusive — parent.