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By: Dr. Free-Ride

Dr. Free-Ride — Mon, 25 Jun 2007 22:42:54 +0000

This:

And what, actually, are anyone’s motive for wanting to be a parent? My guess is that if you get to the core of that desire, very few would answer that they became parents because they wanted to pass on their genes and propagate the species. (And I’d be creeped out by anyone who did claim that as the primary reason they became parents.) My guess is that most people would shrug their shoulders and then stammer out an answer about how it was just a deep desire they’d always had, for as long as they can remember. They just wanted to have children and become parents.

In that sense, isn’t any motive for having children and becoming parents to some degree a selfish one?

is so true that it ought to be in the dictionary to illustrate the word truth.

Seriously, I have worries about the people who think it would somehow be better if people *weren’t* having children because they wanted to have children.

By: Bruce/Crablaw

Bruce/Crablaw — Sat, 23 Jun 2007 16:27:48 +0000

Terrance, goddammit, don’t you know that it’s gay couples who invented custody fights and poisoned straight Christian society with that depravity?

It was fights between lesbian moms over their that motivated the police to take action against all the lesbians hedonistically listening to k.d.lang in the original Stonewall police raid in the first place.

The sheer selfishness of gay parents just amazes me. They think that they are getting up in the morning to deal with infant explosive diarrhea, child nutrition, little league, working overtime to pay bills despite higher taxes, dealing with 4-5 times the paperwork crap that a straight couple does, worrying to death about the childrens’ welfare but it’s all really about selfish hedonism.

It’s hedonism that gets gay parents to buy mounds of diapers. It’s hedonism that motivates the ER visits and talking with all the teachers, little league coaches. If they weren’t such pleasure-seeking bastards and bitches they would live single and childless. But no, they have to get their rocks off watching Dora the Explorer and Barney. Narcissists.

By: Rachel S.

Rachel S. — Sat, 23 Jun 2007 02:03:45 +0000

I sure know this argument, but from a little different perspective. I even got a link from Andrew Sullivan on that post, but he was approaching it from a gay perspective. I reposted that post in response to this lovely trollish comment, which was responding to another post. The subject--interracial relationships. I guess they would think y'all are doubly selfish gay and interracial.

By: teiresias the seer

teiresias the seer — Fri, 22 Jun 2007 19:21:26 +0000

I already posted on Media Matters–this is just too strange! I always assumed Mark was gay. The last time I saw him, in about 1989, we were in a gay bar in Madison, Wisconsin. I was with his friend, now deceased, Duane Gay, who I worked with at the time.
Not to cast stereotypes or anything, but at the time the guy had handbags falling out every time he opened his mouth. He didn’t seem to have any problem with the boys in leather or the guys looking at softcore porn magazines at the bar.
Hmmm, my mistake I guess. Or was it?

By: lorin11

lorin11 — Fri, 22 Jun 2007 16:45:14 +0000

A-freakin’-men.

By: rob

rob — Fri, 22 Jun 2007 15:21:23 +0000

His idea of a three way relationship was pretty lame. A friend of mine has nine mothers, because his dad was married nine times while he was growing up. My friend only keeps in touch with a few of them, but you can ask him and he’ll tell you how his dad had no family growing up, and now, thanks to his father’s inability to make a commitment, my friend actually has a very big family. If his dad had stayed married to his first wife, then my friend would still only have two parents, and all three of them would probably be miserable.

By: Karoli

Karoli — Fri, 22 Jun 2007 01:42:48 +0000

Great post. You’ve nailed the heads-i-win-tails-you-lose foundation of the anti-gay parenting platform. I wish I could say that there’s more of us who aren’t like these folks than the other way but I can’t. All I can do is try to educate them every chance I get.

Sign me,

Straight parent who doesn’t care if a kid has two moms or two dads as long as they have parents who love them.

By: rachel

rachel — Thu, 21 Jun 2007 22:06:53 +0000

Y’know, his idea of a “3-way relationship” was pretty, uh, lame. I was picturing polyamory, or at the very least bigamy. You have a child with one partner, and later have a different partner? Who wants rights? Don’t straight people do that all the time when they divorce and remarry? What’s so radical or appalling about that?

I have a friend with two husbands — only one is legally her husband, of course. She has children by both and they all live under one roof, as happily as any other family I know. This Belling guy can not even imagine she exists, that’s how narrow his vision is (and that’s fine by her — she’s never quite free of the fear that child services is going to come break up her household).