The Republic of T.

Michael has come up with a reason why why Larry Craig has to resign and David Vitter didn’t that I hadn’t thought of before. It’s as simple as Louisiana having a Democratic governor who would appoint a Democrat, and Idaho having a Republican governor who would most likely appoint a Republican. Once again, it’s not so much the morality as it is the politics.

OK, I’ll admit I’m shocked. If I’d even tried to guess which state would be the next to allow gays to legally marry, I would have picked California or Maryland, where cases are now pending in the states’ highest courts. I would not have picked Iowa. But apparently, Iowa it is.

Two men sealed the state’s first legal same-sex marriage with a kiss Friday morning, less than 24 hours after a judge threw out Iowa’s ban gay marriage and about two hours before he put the ruling on hold.

It was a narrow window of opportunity.

Thursday afternoon, Polk County Judge Robert Hanson temporarilyvcleared the way for same-sex couples across the state to apply for marriage licenses in Polk County when he ruled that Iowa’s 1998 Defense of Marriage Act, which allowed marriage only between a man and a woman, violated the constitutional rights of due process and equal protection of six gay couples who had sued.

County attorney John Sarcone promised a quick appeal, and he asked Hanson to stay his ruling until the appeal was resolved.

A dozen gay and lesbian couples were waiting at the county recorder’s office when it opened Friday morning.

By 11 a.m., 20 had applied for marriage licenses when Recorder Julie Haggerty announced that she had been instructed to stop accepting the applications. Hanson told The Associated Press about an hour and half later that he had formally stayed his ruling.

I can’t blame those doezen couples. I’d have camped out at the courthouse myself. Even with the possibility that the court could “un-marry” us later, being legally married might come in handy, if our rights and protections as a couple were called into question in the meantime.

But the Iowa situation brings up some interesting questions.

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The Queen is dead. Long live the Queen. Of mean, that is. Leona may have gone to that great tax-shelter in the sky — though not before one last slap, leaving $12 million to her dog and strangely conditional trusts to her grandchildren — but there may be a new contender for the crown. While shopping for jewelry, Condoleezza Rice was heard to say to an exasperated clerk:

Condoleezza Rice may be willing to compromise at a Middle East negotiating table - but not at a jewelry counter.

Coit Blacker, a Stanford professor who is one of the secretary of state’s closest friends, recalls going into a shop where Rice asked to see earrings. The clerk showed her costume jewelry. Rice asked to see something nicer, prompting the clerk to whisper some sass under her breath.

Blacker remembers Rice tearing the woman to shreds.

“Let’s get one thing straight,” he recalls her saying. “You are behind the counter because you have to work for minimum wage. I’m on this side asking to see the good jewelry because I make considerably more.

I don’t know that an annual salary of $183,500 puts Condi in Leona’s bracket, but then again I also don’t know how much her total assets add up to. I do know that she’s serious about her shopping. There was that woman who scolded her for buying Ferragmos in the midst of the Katrina aftermath. She got dragged off by security.

Those two stories, plus one or two others I’ve read lately, have brought up one question in my mind: What is it about power/money/success, that it seems to come with a license to treat other people badly?

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No, I’m not going to launch into another post about Larry Craig. Yet. But as I was looking through my referring links, I came across this wonderful post from Seething Mom. I’ll get to what she has to say to Craig in a minute. First I gotta share the statement at the top her her blog.

I seethe not because my son is gay. I seethe because he is gay in a country governed by people who find it politically advantageous to deem him a second-class citizen because he is gay. I seethe because there are people who preach hatred and discrimination towards gays under the guise of Christianity. I seethe because there are groups who claim to be advocates for the family but who do great harm to any family that doesn’t fit their narrow view of “normal”.

So, why is this seething mom saying “thank you” to Larry Craig?

Well.

Yep, that’s right Senator Craig, you heard me right, I want to thank you. You see, you have just shown millions of parents who have gay and lesbian children why they absolutely, positively MUST encourage their children to come out and proudly be who they are. You have also confirmed why all parents should not only accept their gay and lesbian children but embrace and love their gay and lesbian children just exactly as they are.

And Senator Craig, you have done a marvelous job of showing millions of parents just how toxic and harmful the closet is and why all parents need to encourage their gay and lesbian children to come out into the sunshine and proudly celebrate who they are. I mean after all, no truly good and loving parent would ever wish upon their beloved child the pitiful, tortured, hypocritical, and pathetic existence you have endured for decades.

But that is not all you have done for the gay and lesbian community Senator. In addition to all of the above, you have also confirmed for the many parents like me who have embraced their gay and lesbian children from the start what great gifts unconditional love and acceptance are for our children. Could there be any greater family or Christian value than that Senator?

Could there, indeed? From Craig to Foley to Allen to Haggard, I wonder how many examples of the closet’s toxicity we’ll have to observe before we finally “get it”?

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And this mom isn’t the only one who’s seething.

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Too bad we don’t live in New Zealand. Because we’d get commercials like this, which crams in more sexual innuendoes than I knew existed (no, really, I had to look some of them up) but does it that’s TV-safe.

How many did you spot? I got these:

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August 2003 was a deadly month to be a transgender woman in Washington, D.C. One year after Ukea Davis and Stephanie Thomas were shot to death, three transgender women were shot inside of just five days. It started with the murder of Bella Evangelista. It continued with the murder of Emonie Kiera Spaulding, and the shooting of Dee Andre. All of three murders had something in common besides the victims being transgender. In each case, the victims were engaged in sex work. Evangelista, according to friends, was part of a support group in which she talked about having to engage in occasional sex work to support herself.

In fact, the three murders caused a discussion at the time that came to mind for me when, as I was working on the Bella Evangelista entry, a I found myself in a discussion about including transgender people in the Employment Non-Discrimination Act. I couldn’t help but see a direct connection between employment discrimination against transgender persons, and the murders of transgender women engaged in sex work.

Technorati Tags: anti-gay violence, crime, D.C., gender, hate crimes, homophobia, politics

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Update: Carlson has responded with the following message to Media Matters.

Let me be clear about an incident I referred to on MSNBC last night: In the mid-1980s, while I was a high school student, a man physically grabbed me in a men’s room in Washington, DC. I yelled, pulled away from him and ran out of the room. Twenty-five minutes later, a friend of mine and I returned to the men’s room. The man was still there, presumably waiting to do to someone else what he had done to me. My friend and I seized the man and held him until a security guard arrived.

Several bloggers have characterized this is a sort of gay bashing. That’s absurd, and an insult to anybody who has fought back against an unsolicited sexual attack. I wasn’t angry with the man because he was gay. I was angry because he assaulted me.

In classic Craig-like fashion, Carlson’s response raises more questions than it answers.

First, it’s markedly different from what he said on MSNBC. How did it go from “hit[ting] him against the stall with his head” to holding him until the police arrived?

So, what was last night? Macho posturing for “the boys”? Why embellish the story with violence that he now says didn’t happen? And as for fighting back, Carlson “yelled and pulled away from him” and was already gone. Long gone. For 25 minutes. Why then would he return? Did he know the guy would still be there? How did he know the guy would still be there?

And was it unsolicited sexual attack or an unwanted advance, of the kind that most women have experienced at some point or another? Would Carlson have reacted the same way to a woman making the same kind of sexual advance to him?

And while I’m asking questions, what park does Carlson take his kid to that has a thriving “tearoom”? I’ve got a five year old myself, and I’m pretty familiar with area parks. But he doesn’t go into public restrooms unless one of us goes with him, and I’ve yet to go into one where there’s any cruising action going on? And if I did, I probably wouldn’t take my kid back to that park.

Like I said, Tucker just raises more questions than he answers.

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Try as I might, and no matter how much the folks at TNR think some people should shut up about marriage equality, I just can’t do it. I’ve spent too much time hearing the stories of what happens to our families in the absence of marriage equality. The latest story, of a gay couple separated by immigration laws, I learned about via Chris Crain. This is one of those cases that kind of undermines the oppositions favorite “there are other legal avenues” argument. Unless there’s a legal answer here that I don’t know about, other than a sham marriage.

TIM COCO, 46, runs a successful advertising agency in Haverhill. Six years ago he met Genesio Januario Oliveira, who was visiting Boston on vacation from his home in Brazil. The two fell in love and in 2005, under rights protected by the Massachusetts Constitution, they were married. Since then, they have lived happily and quietly in a Boston suburb with their dog, Q-Tip.

Except that two weeks ago Oliveira was forced to return to Brazil under orders from the US Board of Immigration Appeals, which denied his application for the asylum status he hoped would allow him to stay in the United States with his husband. The couple needed to pursue the asylum route because their same-sex marriage is not recognized by the federal government, and federal laws supersede states’ when it comes to immigration.

According to the 2000 US Census, some 35,000 same-sex couples who list themselves as “unmarried partners” similarly include one person who is a US citizen and one person who is not. They do not all try to follow the law as dutifully as Coco and Oliveira. Indeed, Oliveira is probably rare among immigrants for complying with the BIA’s June order to “voluntarily depart” within 60 days or risk deportation, fines, and a 10-year bar from applying for another US visa. When he arrived at the US consulate in Sao Paulo to certify he had left within the 60 days, his visa was canceled. “I guess you don’t get any points for playing by the rules,” says Tim.

Nope. Not if you’re gay. In fact. playing by the rules may mean paying a higher price if you’re gay. Not just in terms of subsidizing benefits for heterosexual couples that you don’t get for your family, or shelling out enough money to pay for 20 marriage licenses while getting less than 1% of the benefits and protections afforded marriage. Even playing by the alternate rules for same-sex couples, and registering as domestic partners, ends up having a price.

Technorati Tags: civil rights, civil unions, culture, current events, gay marriage, gay rights, history, marriage, politics, religion, same-sex marriage

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There’s one aspect of the Larry Craig Scandal that’s been in the back of my mind ot write about since the story broke yesterday, and yoshi touched on it in a comment on the previous post.

I am fascinated by the cultural differences between generations. There is this whole culture of sneaking around bathrooms and parks and secret hand signals that I never was exposed too (and quite frankly don’t want to experience). I don’t know one person my age (35) or younger that does this.

Whether anyone under 35 does it or not, and arguably some do, what Senator Craig allegedly got caught doing (though I’m not sure I need to add the “allegedly” qualifier, since he pleaded guilty earlier this month, and didn’t have his fingers crossed as far as I know) isn’t anything new. It’s called “tearoom trade“, and it’s as old as the public restroom itself, and entire histories have been written about it.

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I really shouldn’t pick on Sen. Larry Craig. But there’s so much to address in this case, especially in the light of the recent news of another Republican — in this case, Florida state Representative Bob Allen — getting busted for soliciting sex in a public bathroom.

To be frank, these guys did pretty lousy at coming up with explanations or alibis for the actions leading to their arrests. I mean, Craig blames his arrest on his problems with haveing a “wide stance” when going to the bathroom. Now, I don’t know whether Craig is just a tall guy who requires more legroom than most bathroom stalls allow, but you’d have have ‘em spread pretty damn wide if your foot is brushing up against the foot of the guy in the next stall, while your sitting on the potty. And I won’t even begin to analyze Allen’s excuse that he was intimidated by a black police officer or scared of lightening.

There’s another reason why upstanding conservative guys like these two might be spending time in public bathrooms. I call it “Saving Souls at Glory Holes.”

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So, Senator Larry Craig — Mitt Romney & DOMA supporter — regrets pleading guilty to lewd conduct in an airport men’s room. That reminds me of Rhett Butler’s line to Scarlett O’Hara from Gone With the Wind, “You’re like the thief who isn’t the least bit sorry he stole, but is terribly, terribly sorry he’s going to jail.” (Gimme a break. I’m gay and a southerner. That gives me the right to make as many GWTW references as I want.)

But it seems like the charges in this case would have been pretty easy fight. So why, if Craig pleaded guilty, does he now regret doing so. Why didn’t he fight the charges then?

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It’s getting so I can’t keep up anymore. But kudos to Mike Rogers of BlogActive for being right all along. Again. Mike was has been telling us for while now about Craig being a closet case. But who’d have thought that the Senator would flame out in Foley-like fasion? And in a public restroom, no less?

According to the incident report, Sgt. Dave Karsnia was working as a plainclothes officer on June 11 investigating civilian complaints regarding sexual activity in the men’s public restroom in which Craig was arrested.

Airport police previously had made numerous arrests in the men’s restroom of the Northstar Crossing in the Lindbergh Terminal in connection with sexual activity.

Karsnia entered the bathroom at noon that day and about 13 minutes after taking a seat in a stall, he stated he could see “an older white male with grey hair standing outside my stall.”

The man, who lingered in front of the stall for two minutes, was later identified as Craig.

“I could see Craig look through the crack in the door from his position. Craig would look down at his hands, ‘fidget’ with his fingers, and then look through the crack into my stall again. Craig would repeat this cycle for about two minutes,” the report states.

Craig then entered the stall next to Karsnia’s and placed his roller bag against the front of the stall door.

It gets worse. Or better, depending on your outlook.

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Not who’s targeted for a hate crime because of their (real or perceived) sexual orientation ends up being murdered. Some survive, but their lives are never the same. Like Dwan Prince. His was one of the stories I wanted to write about when I started this project. I’d blogged about it before and always wanted to cover it in more detail.

What struck me as I was reading about how Dwan Prince was attacked by three men — right outside of his apartment building, who beat, stomped, and kicked him while shouting anti-gay epithets (and, according to some witnesses, his name), and how one attacker returned to deliver one final kick to Prince’s face, as lay dazed and bleeding — was what sparked it all. Unlike what happened to Richie Philips or Jason Gage, there were no alleged (and allegedly unwelcome) sexual advances behind closed doors. Like Roberto Duncanson, what happened between Prince and his attacker happened in the street. And what happened to Dwan Prince happened in the street.

And what sparked the beating that would leave Dwan Prince with lifelong consequences? A look and a flirtatious remark. Like Roberto Duncanson, Prince’s main offense was just looking at his attacker. (I’m reminded of the response I used to hear in kindergarden, “How would you know he’s looking at you unless you’re looking at him?”) Like Duncanson’s attacker, Prince’s asked “What the fuck are you looking at?” And, according to witnesses, Prince responded with a flirtatious joke. (Just like Kevin Aviance’s attackers claimed he provoked a beating by calling one of them “sweetie.”)

For that, Dwan Prince’s life was unalterably changed, and very nearly taken from him.

Technorati Tags: anti-gay violence, crime, current events, gay bashing, gay rights, hate crimes, homophobia, politics

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