No, I’m not going to launch into another post about Larry Craig. Yet. But as I was looking through my referring links, I came across this wonderful post from Seething Mom. I’ll get to what she has to say to Craig in a minute. First I gotta share the statement at the top her her blog.
I seethe not because my son is gay. I seethe because he is gay in a country governed by people who find it politically advantageous to deem him a second-class citizen because he is gay. I seethe because there are people who preach hatred and discrimination towards gays under the guise of Christianity. I seethe because there are groups who claim to be advocates for the family but who do great harm to any family that doesn’t fit their narrow view of “normal”.
So, why is this seething mom saying “thank you” to Larry Craig?
Yep, that’s right Senator Craig, you heard me right, I want to thank you. You see, you have just shown millions of parents who have gay and lesbian children why they absolutely, positively MUST encourage their children to come out and proudly be who they are. You have also confirmed why all parents should not only accept their gay and lesbian children but embrace and love their gay and lesbian children just exactly as they are.
And Senator Craig, you have done a marvelous job of showing millions of parents just how toxic and harmful the closet is and why all parents need to encourage their gay and lesbian children to come out into the sunshine and proudly celebrate who they are. I mean after all, no truly good and loving parent would ever wish upon their beloved child the pitiful, tortured, hypocritical, and pathetic existence you have endured for decades.
But that is not all you have done for the gay and lesbian community Senator. In addition to all of the above, you have also confirmed for the many parents like me who have embraced their gay and lesbian children from the start what great gifts unconditional love and acceptance are for our children. Could there be any greater family or Christian value than that Senator?
Could there, indeed? From Craig to Foley to Allen to Haggard, I wonder how many examples of the closet’s toxicity we’ll have to observe before we finally “get it”?
And this mom isn’t the only one who’s seething.
Clay Cane poses a hilariously honest question concerning Larry Craig’s dissembling, and the elephant in the room that no one seems willing to point out.
Now we have Senator Craig denying he is gay, which some people are mortified by. Why in gay-angel-food-cake-heaven would anyone expect a 62 year-old, rich, white man from Midvale, Idaho admit to being homosexual? There is no way the man would ever identify with being gay and I find it almost appalling that his refusal of saying he is gay is the shocker to many people. Senator Craig is not from the generation of Rosie O’Donnell and Ellen. Hell, according to the quote above he was trying to pick up boys at the University of Idaho before Stonewall happened! Merv Griffin couldn’t even come out of the closet and he wasn’t even a politician, just a television legend! To have the expectation of Senator Craig calling himself gay is a bit farfetched and missing a major point.
What I brought up on the Santita Jackson show is that with Senator Craig, Mark Foley or Jim McGreevy no one is using the word “DL” nor blaming these rich white men for HIV/AIDS in their community—that is the boom-kat! These men, especially Senator Craig, are the definition of “DL” because not only are/were they lying to their family, but they are/were lying to the world.
Alexander Robinson of the The National Black Justice Coalition has his own list of lessons from the Larry Craig affair, including one that Clay touched on.
Isn’t it amazing how when white people do and say things that it is reported differently in the media in comparison to blacks who do the exact same thing? Further, the law and its punishment are also applied differently to black people. In fact people of color in general often receive harsher prison sentencing for committing similar or even lesser crimes than their white counterparts.
Male-to-male sex scandals are also treated differently where black people are concerned. Black men have been systematically portrayed in a much more negative and darker media light than their white male counter parts.
… What Gov. McGreevy and Sen. Larry Craig both prove is that the down low isn’t just a black thing, but instead it is a male thing. It is a form of sexual repression that should not be scolded and rebuked when black men do it then heralded and forgiven when an attractive white man does it as was the case with McGreevy.
Now that Sen. Larry Craig has also been revealed to be on the “down low” how will the gay press, the mainstream press and the black press treat him? Will the entire incident be forgotten in six months? Will Sen. Craig keep his seat in the Senate? Or will he go back to being his old hypocritical ways and continue to vote against LGBT legislation such as the Hate Crimes Bill and ENDA?
Chances are he won’t have to worry about his voting record. Barney Frank may think Craig should keep his job, but his Republican friends are running away from him faster than Tucker Carlson fleeing a sidelong glance in the men’s room.
Craig may have more than his voting record to worry about. At least one doctor has offered this mental health diagnosis for Larry Craig.
In my professional opinion, you are a sociopath and disgrace to the entire country, if not the world.Not because you are gay, but because your narcissistic personality disorder* has been, till now, serving your ambitions quite grandly while silently wreaking havoc on the innocents around you — your wife, your children, your constituents and gay people in Idaho who you are supposed to represent….
You are the worst kind of hypocrite and sociopath — a closeted gay man who attacks his own people and thwarts their attempts at civil rights. You deserve all the damaging fallout that this sordid affair will undoubtably bring.
I will do everything in my power as a physician, community leader and broadcast radio show host on a conservative talk radio station (my radio colleagues include Bill O’Reilly and Sean Hannity) to see that you never set foot in the hallowed halls in the U.S. Senate again.
That may be a well deserved warning for Craig, but this list of diagnostic criteria for narcissistic personality disorder ought to make all of us a little nervous.
1. An exaggerated sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements).
Translation: Grandiosity is the hallmark of narcissism. So what is grandiose? The simplest everyday way that narcissists show their exaggerated sense of self-importance is by talking about family, work, life in general as if there is nobody else in the picture. Whatever they may be doing, in their own view, they are the star, and they give the impression that they are bearing heroic responsibility for their family or department or company, that they have to take care of everything because their spouses or co-workers are undependable, uncooperative, or otherwise unfit. They ignore or denigrate the abilities and contributions of others and complain that they receive no help at all; they may inspire your sympathy or admiration for their stoicism in the face of hardship or unstinting self-sacrifice for the good of (undeserving) others. But this everyday grandiosity is an aspect of narcissism that you may never catch on to unless you visit the narcissist’s home or workplace and see for yourself that others are involved and are pulling their share of the load and, more often than not, are also pulling the narcissist’s share as well. An example is the older woman who told me with a sigh that she knew she hadn’t been a perfect mother but she just never had any help at all — and she said this despite knowing that I knew that she had worn out and discarded two devoted husbands and had lived in her parents’ pocket (and pocketbook) as long as they lived, quickly blowing her substantial inheritance on flaky business schemes. Another example is claiming unusual benefits or spectacular results from ordinary effort and investment, giving the impression that somehow the narcissist’s time and money are worth more than other people’s. [Here is an article about recognizing and coping with narcissism in the workplace; it is rather heavy on management jargon and psychobabble, but worth reading. “The Impact of Narcissism on Leadership and Sustainability” by Bruce Gregory, Ph.D. “When the narcissistic defense is operating in an interpersonal or group setting, the grandiose part does not show its face in public. In public it presents a front of patience, congeniality, and confident reasonableness.”]…
2. Preoccupation with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love.
Translation: Narcissists cultivate solipsistic or “autistic” fantasies, which is to say that they live in their own little worlds (and react with affront when reality dares to intrude).
3. Believes he is “special” and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions).
Translation: Narcissists think that everyone who is not special and superior is worthless. By definition, normal, ordinary, and average aren’t special and superior, and so, to narcissists, they are worthless.
4. Requires excessive admiration.
Translation: Excessive in two ways: they want praise, compliments, deference, and expressions of envy all the time, and they want to be told that everything they do is better than what others can do. Sincerity is not an issue here; all that matter are frequency and volume.
5. Has a sense of entitlement.
Translation: They expect automatic compliance with their wishes or especially favorable treatment, such as thinking that they should always be able to go first and that other people should stop whatever they’re doing to do what the narcissists want, and may react with hurt or rage when these expectations are frustrated.
6. Selfishly takes advantage of others to achieve his own ends.
Translation: Narcissists use other people to get what they want without caring about the cost to the other people.
7. Lacks empathy.
Translation: They are unwilling to recognize or sympathize with other people’s feelings and needs. They “tune out” when other people want to talk about their own problems.
8. Is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him.
Translation: No translation needed.
9. Shows arrogant, haughty, patronizing, or contemptuous behaviors or attitudes.
Translation: They treat other people like dirt.