The Republic of T.

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Not the Story. Part of the Story

I love finding this kind of thing, and I think it’s worth pointing out when I do. We subscribe to Newsweek, and I usually thumb through the newest issue when it comes in, which is what I did when the “Splitsville” issue arrived. It sounds weird, but I start reading Newsweek from the back. I usually want to read “Newsmakers” first, then see what’s being reviewed as far as books, music, and movies, before I get to the feature story, about “the children of divorce, all grown up.”

Given the subject matter, I wasn’t expecting it to have a gay angle. (Because gay people can’t even get divorced, but that’s another story.) Lo and behold, when I finally got to the photo for the cover story, there it was. The gay angle. It wasn’t the story, but a part of the story. And that, folks, is progress.

Fourth and fifth from the left we have Laurie Gelardi and David Jefferson, of whom we’re told the following.

Laurie Gelardi. A neonatal nurse; she’s been with her partner for 15 years has two kids.

David Jefferson. A journalist for Newsweek; he has been with his partner for seven years, and his parents have been married 47.

I haven’t read the rest of the article yet, but I thought their inclusion in it — as part of the story, but not the story itself — was significant. It goes back to something I blogged about when I came across a WaPo story about vegetarian kids that included a kid with two moms.

It goes back to what Abigail wrote in Families Like Mine: Children of Gay Parents Tell It Like It Is. (Which, by the way, I highly recommend to any LGBT parents.)

Being profiled in the paper simply because I was from one of those famiiles is progress, but not success. Success will be when a child with LGBT parents can be profiled for some other reason, and the mention of his or her family can be referenced without sexual orientation becoming the main focus.

So, I opened up Newsweek and there it was right in front of me: progress.
That, I thought, was prety cool.


  1. I hope that my visibility in a small town near a large city will help that along. My son seems to be fairly popular and accepted at school.

  2. Very nice. I can’t wait until it’s about being just another person and not “sexuality” or “a GLBT person”. IOW, I’m tired of it being an issue, at least for some people. Kudos to Newsweek for making it be just part of the story.