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What’s Your Song?

If you’re partnered or in a relationship, do you “have a song”? If you’ve ever been partnered or in a relationship, was there a special song that was “your song”? Even if you haven’t yet, what song makes you think of how it might feel?

I ask because I didn’t post about Valentine’s Day, but this rather lengthy playlist posted at The Best Article Every Day got me thinking.

OK, it’s mostly sad songs.

Valentine’s Day is almost here, and as everyone from your bubbe to your Facebook status won’t stop reminding you: You are alone. All alone.

Profound sadness is not for the faint of heart. And sometimes the best place to be is right in the middle of it.

Because that’s just the kind of mood we’re in. Honest. We’re not one of those toothy, gleaming motivational speakers. We’re not here to sell you a bill of goods about positive thinking and self-esteem and controlling your destiny by visualizing your chakras.

Instead, we offer 150 of the saddest songs in the world, subjectively selected and specially arranged for maximum depressive potential. And please, feel free to wallow in more anti-romance with our buddy Jason Gelt’s “Valentine’s Day songs for haters” list or recommend your own teary tunes in the comments.

Believe me, I get it.

I hated Valentine’s Day for years. Once, when I was in college, I went out the night before and rented a stack of horror movies. Then I called in sick at work, and spent the day in my pajamas, watching horror movies. Why? Because horror movies either don’t have romantic storylines, or the relationship ends badly (and permanently) if included at all.

Why? Well, by (a) staying home and (b) filling spending the day watching horror movies, I could be assured that I wouldn’t be exposed to anything related to Valentines day, or that reminded me of my state: alone and lonely. (The two are not necessarily the same.) It worked too. It even drove my roommate and his boyfriend from the house. (Somewhere in the middle of Child’s Play 2 they decided to go out.)

Now? Well, I’m happily married. We don’t make a big deal out of Valentine’s day, except for buying a box of candy. But we do have “a song.” Or two. Actually, we each have a song that reminds us of the other.

The song that makes the hubby think of me is “Hanging By a Moment” by Lifehouse.

Hanging By A Moment – Lifehouse

My song that reminds me of him is “I Could Not Ask For More” by Edwin McCain.

I Could Not Ask For More – Edwin McCain

Sappy, right? Well, I can’t help it. Can you? C’mon. What’s “your song”?

If it helps, I dug up this playlist based on a CD I put together for the hubby on Valentine’s Day 2001.


So, once the sugar shock wears off, share yours


  1. My Song is You Can Make Me Want You, But I Ain’t Gonna Love You, by Suzi Quatro!

  2. Oddly enough my song with the unhusband is all about breaking up. We have this thing for Blue Rodeo and our song is after the rain. We are nowhere near breaking up after 20 years together but this song still touches us.